Comment on So you grew up with a dad who didn’t know how to express love? Here’s how it could be affecting you today by Joyce.
I will be turning 28 soon and about to get married. As far as I can remember; my father was abusive towards me from 1995 when I was 10 years old. He will beat up my mother so bad, right in front of me. When I cry he will come and slap me in a way that I see the shining stars around me. Until now nothing changed except the fact that he doesn’t do it to me anymore but to my younger siblings. We are 8 in the family, with one child coming from another relationship he had while cheating on my mother. When I was young he use to kick me out from his house, even at midnight for petty reasons.
Things got better after completing matric as I had to go and stay in the university. He never paid for my studies, and my mom had to struggle alone. I had to study hard to get bursaries because I didn’t want to drop out and go back to my abusive father. I am now independent and renting my own flat very far away from him. Now he is abusing my other three younger sibling (girls). They called me telling me that he kicked them out. One of them is staying at a friend ‘s place, and the other one refused to go while the other one is only 11, and trying to hide under the wings of the one who refused to go. Now i just called my mother to report him to the police or social workers because he is sabotaging them instead of protecting them. Do you have a better advice?
