Comment on So you grew up with a dad who didn’t know how to express love? Here’s how it could be affecting you today by Tanuja.
Hi,
I need your guidance.
My childhood with my parents – He always abused my mother, gave her silent treatment by stonewalling. Shout at my mother beat her at times shamming her in front of my relatives and suspected her character. He was good to me, but I used to keep some distance. My mother used to tell me everything and I used to console her.
About me: till my 20’s I did not like guys and from 21 it is like for 3-4 years I want to get married and settled to this guy who dresses like my father and who is reserved and stonewalls. I go to temples/churches and pray to God that he will make me his wife. And after some time I get to know he is getting married and I move on deeply hurt. Till I get to know that he is involved with someone I keep calling/writing and expressing my interests and never get any response. Never getting response gives me the view that the guys is very decent and he is the right one for me.
Current: I am going to turn 40 after all these failures I am not able move on and get settled in life. My parents are worried that I am not getting married. My problem is I am currently stuck with a similar kind of guy who does not even responds to me and I pray to GOD.
Apart from relationship I am well settled career wise and have good talent and hobbies. I am also spiritual.
I need your help to break this cycle. Please help me.
