Comment on So you grew up with a dad who didn’t know how to express love? Here’s how it could be affecting you today by Sarah Best.
Hi Emily,
Going by what you write your dad clearly has unresolved emotional issues – so unresolved that at times during your life, the best way he’s known to deal with them has been through alcohol. That is unspeakably sad for him and also for you, his daughter, as he wasn’t able to be there for you in the way you needed. And judging by what you write, he isn’t able now, either.
With this backstory, it’s not surprising that you feel confused and conflicted about him; nor that it is affecting your self-esteem and relationship with your boyfriend. These are normal reactions but at the same time, you can heal and the fact you are aware there is an issue and actively looking for information is a big first step on that path.
I am about to launch a free newsletter in which I will be sharing tips on all of these challenges you mention, and answering reader questions – ones posed on this blog as well as by subscribers to the newsletter. If you would like to sign up to receive it, just scroll up the page to the boxes between the start of these comments and the end of the article and enter your details.
Sarah x
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Thank you so much for sharing that.
Yes, it is devastating to miss the love of a father.
And it’s not made any easier by the fact that this is so little talked about and understood.
But for what it’s worth, in the four years since I began writing about this topic I’ve heard from SO many women who feel just as you do.
That’s why I started my free email series on the father-daughter relationship, which is designed to answer the very questions you posed, and which I see you’ve signed up for. I hope you’ll find it helpful.
Thanks again for the share.
Sarah x
Thank you so much for sharing all of that. I hear you and for what it’s worth, since I started writing about this topic four years ago I’ve heard from many women in similar situations who feel just as you do. That’s why I started a free newsletter, full of info and tips for women who are dealing with a challenging, painful and/or non-existent father-daughter relationship.
If you’d like to receive that you can sign up here.
Sarah xo
Are you signed up to receive my (free) Father Daughter Factor emails ‚Ä쬆those are ALL about healing the relationship and one of the topics I’m going to covering soon is the very one you asked about: “at what point is it okay to cut ties and say enough is enough?” You can sign up here.
Sarah xo
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