Comment on So you grew up with a dad who didn’t know how to express love? Here’s how it could be affecting you today by Sarah Best.
Hi Jess,
I send out regular (free) email updates for readers who are looking for guidance on issues relating to the father-daughter relationship. In these updates I share really life-changing information and inspiration, and you can sign up for them here.
To briefly respond to what you wrote, my take on it is that your parents have always been unable to meet your emotional needs due to some major unresolved emotional issues of their own. This underlying issue is heartbreakingly common, though in terms of how it manifests in a family it has a thousand different faces.
I think you need to really go within and ask whether you think your relationship with your parents can ever be a source of support and joy in your life (and that of your husband and children), rather than stress and heartache. And if you think it can, then it would be time to get clear on what you need to communicate to both your mother and your father, and how best to do it.
I hope you’ll sign up for my updates as I’ll be including a lot of information designed to guide women in gracefully navigating dysfunctional family dynamics and I think it will really help you in making the important decisions you need to make here.
Sarah x
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Thank you so much for sharing that.
Yes, it is devastating to miss the love of a father.
And it’s not made any easier by the fact that this is so little talked about and understood.
But for what it’s worth, in the four years since I began writing about this topic I’ve heard from SO many women who feel just as you do.
That’s why I started my free email series on the father-daughter relationship, which is designed to answer the very questions you posed, and which I see you’ve signed up for. I hope you’ll find it helpful.
Thanks again for the share.
Sarah x
Thank you so much for sharing all of that. I hear you and for what it’s worth, since I started writing about this topic four years ago I’ve heard from many women in similar situations who feel just as you do. That’s why I started a free newsletter, full of info and tips for women who are dealing with a challenging, painful and/or non-existent father-daughter relationship.
If you’d like to receive that you can sign up here.
Sarah xo
Are you signed up to receive my (free) Father Daughter Factor emails ‚Ä쬆those are ALL about healing the relationship and one of the topics I’m going to covering soon is the very one you asked about: “at what point is it okay to cut ties and say enough is enough?” You can sign up here.
Sarah xo
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