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Hi, I’m glad to know i’m nt alone. I’m a muslim. Ever since i was young,my parents have been having problems financially. Dad can’t support us. Mum has had to struggle to take care of us. To top it all she has had to withstand his physical and emotional abuse. So many times she tried to get out of marriage bt our religion only places emphasis on what men want.
Growing up, my dad and i communicated very little, and i blamed him for all our suffering and pain. I grew to hate him and i still do. In my teens, Mum had to work late hours,and i had to take up her role and study as well. I struggled to cook and help my siblings with schoolwork. I hated it especially because i worked as he sat. He even ordered us around like maids.
As a result i indulged myself in premarital sex which is forbidden in Islam, with the hope of getting married so that i can distance myself from him. As we speak, Mum, my siblings and i have left home and are living on our own. An ongoing court case filed for divorce awaits us.
He has blamed Mum for my shortcomings, even though i was of legal age. He has denied the divorce and is withholding our items. I am 22 and i feel i can never forgive my father for what he has put us through and choosing to display my private life in public. He has ruined my name infront of the Muslim community, my mum is worried that i won’t get married. I hate him even more and he insists on keeping us. Please advise.
