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this article makes so much sense to me because it’s totally what I went through. I always needed my father’s approval but I only ever got disappointment. I gave up trying and just became a very naughty teenager. I didn’t try at school, I developed a drug problem and also attracted very bad men. Not only that, but I became very sick with chronic fatigue and had severe depression from all of the stress. Its only now in my 30’s I have managed to heal and have become a person who doesn’t need their father’s approval, and funnily enough, I now have it, I guess because I dont seem as weak as I did when younger. I don’t think that loss of relationship will ever heal properly but it just became something I accepted. But I do know that underneath all that I went through it was because of that relationship that was so messed up. I was however able to look at my father’s own childhood and understood completely why he is the way he is. His own mother was and still is a monster, completely messing with his head and causing him to be emotionally very cold. Funny thing is he is actually very sensitive himself but just never knew how to deal with it. I think the key is for all of us to look at the father and try and find out, ‘why is he like this?” then we can remove lots of the anger and realise that he has gone through something terrible too. But the sad thing is he wasn’t able to break the cycle. It is the job of us though, to do that, to not pass the pain onto our own children.

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